Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 6

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Yet, I haven’t 100% rejected the idea that being gay is OK with God. You can’t just undo a lifetime of being taught homosexuality is the worst possible sin in a short period of time.

No, it’s not the worst possible sin. Jesus himself said so.

(Mat 10:14-15) If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town. 15 I tell you the truth, it will be more bearable for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that town.

Jesus said that those who reject the gospel will suffer a worse fate than the men of Sodom and Gomorrah. But there’s more. You see, in the N. T. Wright interview quoted in part 1, Wright denies that homosexual conduct is the worst of all sins. He then gives the example of economic oppression by Western nations that is keeping many poorer nations trapped in poverty. He was surely thinking of such passages as —

(Isa 1:10-17) “Hear the word of the LORD, you rulers of Sodom; listen to the law of our God, you people of Gomorrah!

11 “The multitude of your sacrifices– what are they to me?” says the LORD. “I have more than enough of burnt offerings, of rams and the fat of fattened animals; I have no pleasure in the blood of bulls and lambs and goats. 12 When you come to appear before me, who has asked this of you, this trampling of my courts? 13 Stop bringing meaningless offerings! Your incense is detestable to me. New Moons, Sabbaths and convocations– I cannot bear your evil assemblies. 14 Your New Moon festivals and your appointed feasts my soul hates. They have become a burden to me; I am weary of bearing them. 15 When you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide my eyes from you; even if you offer many prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are full of blood; 16 wash and make yourselves clean. Take your evil deeds out of my sight! Stop doing wrong, 17 learn to do right! Seek justice, encourage the oppressed. Defend the cause of the fatherless, plead the case of the widow.”

Why did Isaiah compare the Israelites to Sodom and Gomorrah? Because they didn’t help the widows and orphans. Because they didn’t help the weak and vulnerable of society.

Consider also —

(Ezek 16:49-50) “‘Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. 50 They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen.”

“Detestable things” translates the word the KJV translates “abomination,” the same word used of a man lying with a man as with a woman in the Law of Moses. This is why Ezekiel refers to his listeners as “Sodom.” But the sin was not homosexuality, it was a lack of compassion for the poor.

Now, the Law of Moses refers to several sins as an abomination, including homosexual acts, idolatry, eating unclean foods, and using false weights to defraud a customer. Such sexual, religious, and economic sins are all abominations before God. Are homosexual acts an abomination? Yes, but so are many other things.

Adultery was a capital crime under the Law of Moses.

Which does more harm, consensual sex between two unmarried men? or between a married man and an unmarried woman? I can tell you for a fact that the adultery does far more harm! I’ve seen it. I know.

Now, I don’t want to get into the business of ranking sins! There’d be little point in such an exercise, were it even possible. But there is simply no argument that homosexual sin is the worst of all sins. On the other hand, neither is there any case for trivializing it. It’s just that we have to keep things in proper perspective.

The thought of gay sex is revolting to most straight people, whereas adultery is a temptation that we straights can easily understand. As a result of its foreign-ness, we tend to attach a far greater weight to it than the scriptures actually justify. God, however, does not make homosexual misconduct a worse sin than heterosexual misconduct.

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Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 5

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I am about to give up the church of Christ because I can’t go on living a lie. If people in my singles class and my minister knew how I really am, I would be condemned and whatever else. Living a lie makes you an alcoholic or a drug addict and you can add any other vice. It’s also very exhausting.

My heart goes out to you. I mean, the last thing any Christian should ever have to do is live a lie. If the attitudes of the rest of us — we straights — force you to lie, then we’re the sinners. Continue reading

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Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 4

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There are many theories on how the meaning of the passages dealing with homosexuality could be interpreted and I have read the gay side of the story and the idea that the scriptures have been mistranslated or have lost their original meaning makes a lot of sense. Also, Jesus accepted everyone and never once said anything about homosexuality.

N. T. Wright addresses those theories in the conversation quoted in the first post of this series. Let me just add this thought about the words of Jesus.

Jesus spoke to a Jewish audience in the First Century. The Law of Moses teaches that homosexual acts are an “abomination” or, as the NIV translates, a “detestable act.” Many other improper sexual acts were also condemned, such as adultery. All came to be referred to as “fornication” in Jewish speech of the day. Continue reading

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A Rap: Fal$e Teacher$ by Shai Linne

What do you think?

(I’m not a rap fan, but I find myself reconsidering my position on that …)

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Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 3.5

gay christianAnonymous commented,

When I say lonely, I’m talking about not having a life partner. I think getting the alcohol out of my system and my life made me realize the loneliness that exists. I can’t drink it away and numb myself anymore.

I’ve spent the day pondering the question of loneliness. When I read your comment, my first thought was to go look at the Blue Like Jazz lesson material. I don’t know if you’ve read the book. It’s by Don Miller, a single Christian man, who has the gift of story telling. It’s great stuff. Continue reading

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Churches of Christ: Our History of Unity

Our preacher is teaching a series on Wednesday nights called “What I Like About the Churches of Christ.” He had me fill in the last two weeks. Here’s the PowerPoint from my classes (WARNING: takes a while to load) — Continue reading

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Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 3

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So many people insist it’s a lifestyle choice and we’re condemned to hell for “choosing to live that lifestyle.” Believe me, it is not a choice. Who in their right mind would choose it? I have been praying for years for God to remove this and it doesn’t happen. This is not how I wanted my life to turn out. I want to be normal. But now I believe that is the way He made me and question why would he make me this way and then send me to hell for it? I don’t accept that anymore.

I imagine that it’s quite true that your homosexual feelings are inborn. Whether they come from heredity or the conditions of the womb or your childhood, I’m sure you are right that they can’t just be wished away! They are real and they are very present in you. Continue reading

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Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 2

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This is an issue I’m struggling with. For most of my life, I’ve been in denial about it and I have never had a gay relationship. But I am attracted to men. I gave up on dating women because it never lasts and I can no longer go on deceiving whoever my date or girlfriend happened to be at the time. I’m also an alcoholic in early stages of recovery. I think my drinking was a way of escaping from myself. Anyway, I have to be truthful if I am going to have a successful recovery and I am tired of trying to deny that I am gay.

You asked me to keep your name confidential, which I truly understand, and I will honor that request. Sadly, the reason you felt the need to make such a request is a result of sin — not your sin, but the sin of the rest of us. Continue reading

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Thought Question: “Right Sizing” the Church Staff

This is from a reader — because, you know, I get emails —

I’ve been in the position of terminating employees and being terminated. I know the pain it causes in people’s lives. I’ve also been reading your posts on becoming more like God.

I’m having difficulty reconciling a right-sizing termination of a church employee with the love commands Jesus spoke of and the compassion and love we are to have for each other in the body. For many reasons I have a hard-time seeing Jesus sitting down with a follower and saying due to fiscal responsibility we no longer need you as an employee and having them feel the pain, despair and embarrassment that comes from the right-sizing termination. Continue reading

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Rerun: Letter to a Gay Man in the Churches of Christ, Part 1

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I received an email requesting that I post something on being gay in the Churches of Christ. I’ve split the email into 8 parts, to fit my answers more closely to the reader’s questions and because his poignant email raises several important issues that merit careful thought and a comprehensive response.

I thought at first of responding privately, but the letter asks for a post, and I’ve come to think that’s the right response. After all, as the writer says, most of our churches have gay members. Most churches have homosexual members who’ve chosen to be single and chaste, surrendering their sexuality to Jesus.

But few would be willing to admit their struggles to the congregation. And this says much about how much further we have to go to truly be like Jesus. Continue reading

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