One thing you have failed to do in your responses, Jay, is explain how 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 squares with your theology.
(1 Cor. 7:10-11 ESV) 10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
These offer a much more thorough explanation than I’ll offer here, but because I’m sure other readers have had the same question — here’s the short version:
First, I agree with the translators of the ESV, NRS, NASB, and NET that the parenthetical in v. 11 does not reflect the words of Jesus. Paul’s statement “the wife should not separate from her husband … and the husband should not divorce his wife” could be from any of the three Synoptic Gospels. It’s very much what Jesus said. The parenthetical cannot be found in the Gospels. Jesus never addresses reconciliation directly.
Second, in 1 Cor 7, throughout the chapter, Paul urges single Christians to remain unmarried. The entreaties (recommendations, urgings) to remain unmarried or else reconcile) are the same voice etc. as the entreaty to remain unmarried in the 1 Cor 7:11 parenthetical. We should not take 1 Cor 7:10-11 as a law while the similarly phrased entreaties to remain single in the rest of the chapter are recommendations based on the “present distress” and Paul’s desire that Christians be unmarried so they can undertake the dangers of mission work without concern for a spouse and children.
Third, there is this regarding 1 Cor 7:26-27 —
The man who ‘has been loosed’ (which may mean divorced, that the spouse has died, or that he has never married) should not seek a wife. Both verbs are in the perfect tense and indicate settled states.
Leon Morris, 1 Corinthians: An Introduction and Commentary (Tyndale NTC 7; IVP/Accordance electronic ed. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press, 1985), 115.
That is, where Paul says to remain unmarried or reconcile, I believe, consistent with Jesus’ teachings, he is speaking of a recent divorce. Do not divorce in order to remarry — therefore, if you divorce, you should remain unmarried or reconciled.
But once the divorce becomes a settled state and reconciliation is not possible, 1 Cor 7:26-27 specifically permits remarriage, as we covered earlier in this series.
(1 Cor. 7:27-28 Young’s Literal Translation) 27 Hast thou been bound to a wife? seek not to be loosed; hast thou been loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou mayest marry, thou didst not sin; and if the virgin may marry, she did not sin; and such shall have tribulation in the flesh: and I spare you.