It’s increasingly fashionable for parents to dress their daughters like tramps (skanks, not hobos), and at younger and younger ages.
[T]he curious Christian can’t help but think of a simple but important follow-up: why? Why shouldn’t we sexualize our daughters?
… Little girls aren’t ready for sex. They can’t handle it emotionally. Statistics correlate young sexual involvement with multiple psychological problems, including eating disorders and depression. It’s just not right for girls to take on an explicitly sexual identity.
Evangelicals can give thanks that the culture, in God’s common grace, does not generally conclude otherwise. …
The first and most basic of parental duties is to protect one’s children in a physical and especially a spiritual sense (Eph. 6:4). This involves training little girls to be modest and chaste, and to exude Christocentric virtue, not to be forward and promiscuous. If these ideals sound Victorian, antiquated to modern ears, they are actually much more historical (see 1 Tim. 2:9-10).
There is another type of father in Scripture besides the wicked men mentioned above. This father finds a little girl dying in the wilderness, crying with no one to hear. He gathers her in his arms and nurses her to health. He clothes her in beauty as she grows, celebrating her womanhood. Because of his protection and care, she flourishes. This father is the Lord God, and his daughter is Jerusalem (Ezek. 16). The text details the faithlessness of God’s people and bears first on that biblical-theological matter, but it also gives us a window into how we are to raise our daughters. Our heavenly Father’s strength, tenderness, and compassion direct our care for our own little girls, and we desire their flourishing for the glory of Christ as he desires the health of his people.
Are we “Tiger Dads”? Perhaps. But more than that, we are called to care for those God entrusts to us, to say to our children through both our words and our actions, “Live!” (Ezek. 16:6).
Here’s the passage the author alludes to –
(Eze 16:5-8 ESV) 5 “No eye pitied you, to do any of these things to you out of compassion for you, but you were cast out on the open field, for you were abhorred, on the day that you were born.
6 “And when I passed by you and saw you wallowing in your blood, I said to you in your blood, ‘Live!’ I said to you in your blood, ‘Live!’ 7 I made you flourish like a plant of the field. And you grew up and became tall and arrived at full adornment. Your breasts were formed, and your hair had grown; yet you were naked and bare.
8 “When I passed by you again and saw you, behold, you were at the age for love, and I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your nakedness; I made my vow to you and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Lord GOD, and you became mine.”
How should a Christian respond to a Christian woman who encourages (or permits) her daughter to dress in an age-inappropriate way, who pushes her daughter into premature sexuality?
And, by the way, my interest isn’t entirely academic. I’ve seen this played out in church, and I’ve seen daughters badly messed up — all the while their mothers were insisting that it’s important for their girl to be “cute.”
What do you think?